Let your body arrive before your expectations do.
Allow encounters to begin without knowing what they will conjufre. Presence opens more than plans ever could.
Let Vulnerability Lead
Dare to be incomplete.
Discomfort is not a flaw in the process; it is the process. Let it surface, shape, and stir the exchange.
Make the Frame Soft
The structure should hold, not bind.
Frames are necessary; but yours are porous, temporal, shifting. Use tools, prompts, spaces that allow for leakage, escape, and entry.
Unfix the Roles
Refuse to stay only teacher, only maker, only observer.
Everyone involved is co-author, co-witness, and sometimes, co-stranger. Let these roles blur.
Design for Reciprocity
The encounter is not yours alone.
Ask: how will you be changed? What will you offer in return? Think with care about the ethics of exchange, image, and memory.
Allow Silence to Speak
Do not rush to fill the gap.
A pause is not absence. It’s breathing space. Let silence stretch, hold, and reorient. Let it do its work.
Prioritize the Time Spent, Not the Output
Value what happens between, not what is made at the end.
The photograph, the object, the text; these are echoes. What matters is the time shared, the attention held.
Listen with the Whole Body
Feel what is not said.
Attune to breath, posture, glance. These are languages too. The work often begins before words arrive.
Interrupt Control with Care
Let go of knowing what comes next.
Rituals of control can creep in unnoticed. Gently disrupt them. Replace them with gestures of openness, small risks.
Let Technology Serve the Relational
Tools should amplify, not obscure, connection.
Whether it’s a heart sensor, a hacked camera, or film, use technology as a medium for affect, not authority.
Stay with the Unresolved
Resist the urge to close the loop.
Some questions do not ask to be answered. Let the encounter remain open, unfinished — a thread that could still return.
Return with Gratitude
Honor what was shared, and with whom.
Every participant is a collaborator. Follow up. Say thank you. Acknowledge the co-authorship — not just in theory, but in practice.